1. A friend asks to borrow your math book, promising to give it back at the end of study hall. When you go to do your homework that night, you discover she still has it. You
a. call and demand that she brings it over. She was the one who kept it.
b. forget about it. One missed assignment won’t hurt. You should have reminded her.
c. call and see if you can go to her house and do your homework together.
d. plan to do it in the morning before school. If you hurry, you can get it done.

2. You have to do a science project with two other students. You seem to be the only one doing your part. You
a. set a time and place and tell the others that if they aren’t there, they can find another group to work with.
b. do the work yourself. It’s not fair, but at least it’ll get done.
c. suggest everyone comes to your house for pizza one night and get most of the work out of the way.
d. divide the task into three equal parts and give everyone a deadline for her assignment. Let the teacher know if anyone is not carrying her weight.

3. You go to a youth group cookout. After eating, everyone is anxious to play volleyball, but there’s a lot of cleanup to do. You
a. tell everyone that if they don’t want to help, they can go home!
b. offer to do the cleanup. You’re not into team sports.
c. turn the cleanup into a team relay race and see which team gets its share done first.
d. assign everyone one area of cleanup and jump right in to set the example.

4. You want to go to the movies. As usual, your friends want to see a romantic comedy, while you’d rather see an action movie. And as usual, they promise you can choose the movie next time. You
a. tell them if they don’t let you choose, you won’t ever go with them again.
b. go with them to the romantic comedy. Everyone else thinks it’ll be good.
c. tell them you’re going to the movie you want to see and whoever comes with you can share your Mega Milk Duds and nachos.
d. get out your planner and ask them exactly when your turn to choose will be.

5. Committees are forming for the spring carnival. What do you do?
a. Take charge of the best committee. Otherwise, don’t bother.
b. Take whatever job no one else wants.
c. Encourage your friends to work together on a project.
d. Organize the committees so that each person serves where she’s most able.

6. You see a “Help Wanted” sign at a local restaurant. When you go in to apply, you find they’re looking for a dishwasher. You
a. say, “No way!” You wash enough dishes at home. You won’t work there unless you can be a greeter.
b. say, “Why not?” Someone’s got to wash the dishes.
c. say, “Sure.” You know with your cheery disposition, you’ll soon be promoted to waiting tables.
d. say, “Sure.” Then create a more efficient way of doing dishes so you can move up to a better job.

7. You and your friends are tossing a wadded-up paper around the science room. One friend grabs for it but bumps into some beakers and breaks them. You say,
a. “You broke them; you pay for them.”
b. “I get a bigger allowance than the rest of you. I’ll pay for them.”
c. “Let’s all hold a car wash this weekend, and we can easily pay for the beakers.”
d. “Let’s call around and see where we can get beakers the cheapest.”

8. Your class receives an extra-long homework assignment because some of the kids were goofing off. You had panned to go out that night. You
a. refuse to do the assignment because you weren’t involved. You go out as planned.
b. give up on going out and do the assignment.
c. have everyone come over, make brownies and do the assignment together.
d. quickly work through it but do it carefully during study hall so you can be free later.

9. Your friends all come over to watch movies at your house, but they can’t agree on what movie to watch and what snacks to have. You
a. choose both the movie and the snacks, because it’s your house.
b. let the most popular person choose.
c. vote on the movie and have several snacks to choose from.
d. choose which movie to watch based on the reviews and choose snacks by nutritional value.

10. If a friend had to list your faults, they would be that you are too
a. bossy/aggressive.
b. wimpy/indecisive.
c. agreeable/cheerful.
d. intense/logical.

How Did You Do?
Mostly A’s: Domineering
You know what you want, and you go for it. Sometimes this means that you ignore the needs or wants of others to get your way. While determination is good, selfishness isn’t. Philippians 2:4 says, “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Read this whole passage to get the proper perspective on putting others first.

Mostly B’s: Doormat
The Bible tells us to be humble but not to let others walk on us or to neglect our own needs. It may seem easier to give in or avoid a confrontation, but it isn’t right. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “ ’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ ” Even though this was written to the Jews in exile, it’s still true today. Stop following everyone else’s leading and start following God’s leading so you can find His plan for you.

Mostly C’s: Delightful
Your good mood and cheerfulness help calm stormy situations. You defuse explosive situations before they arise. Good for you! Just make sure that your happiness isn’t a mask, covering up insecurity or suppressed anger. Speak your mind when you need to—but make sure your words are “full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone” (Colossians 4:6).

Mostly D’s: Diligent
You help problem-solve using calmness and logic. Finding answers is easy for you, so you are seldom a doormat, but neither do you dominate others. You are self-sufficient but make sure that self-sufficiency doesn’t alienate you from friends or from trust in God. When we try to be sufficient in ourselves, we may forget that everything we are comes from God. Read Philippians 3 to find out the problem with having too much confidence in ourselves. Paul said he considered everything a loss compared to knowing Jesus.