2. It’s your turn to cook supper. What do you fix?
a. Mom’s favorite main dish, Dad’s favorite vegetable and my favorite dessert.
b. All my favorites, since I have to cook.
c. All my older brother’s favorites. He covered for me when I forgot to take out the trash last week.

3. Your friends are taking up a collection to buy flowers for a teacher who’s in the hospital. You
a. tell them you’re broke.
b. give a couple of bucks. You don’t like the teacher, but you feel bad that she’s in the hospital.
c. empty your wallet into the collection. Maybe someone will do the same for you someday.

4. Your youth group is cleaning and painting the homeless shelter. Only a few kids show up, so you
a. stay all day to help get the whole project done.
b. stay only an hour or two so you don’t do more than your share.
c. stay half a day and do as much as you can, then spend the rest of the day doing other things.

5. Your sister drives you to soccer practice every afternoon. She asks you to go to a college lecture with her that she’s required to attend. You
a. go. After all, spending all that time driving you to soccer isn’t that much fun for her.
b. stay home and watch a movie. A college lecture is NOT your idea of a good time.
c. go to the lecture but go out for ice cream afterwards so you have something to look forward to.

6. Your youth group is collecting items for the homeless shelter. You go through your closet and give
a. some of your clothes that are still in good shape but that you don’t wear as much as others.
b. most of your outfits. You can wear only one at a time anyway.
c. one or two shirts that don’t fit.

7. You baby-sit for your neighbor. Afterward, she asks if she can pay you next week. You
a. tell her it’s OK—you don’t need to be paid to help out.
b. say it’s OK, but you’d like the money by the weekend, because you planned to use it to go bowling with your church group.
c. say you won’t be baby-sitting for her again, because you expect to be paid right away.

8. Your brother asks if you’ll dry dishes for him Friday night because he has a date. You
a. tell him you’ll dry for him if he’ll do it for you next time you need to be somewhere.
b. tell him no. He should have planned better.
c. tell him yes. That’s what sisters are for.

9. You and your sister share a room. She’s a lot neater than you and is always asking you to pick up your stuff. You
a. pick up your stuff and make the room look the way she’d like it to look.
b. compromise on neatness and room arrangement.
c. let her clean it since it bothers her.

10. You and your brother have to mow and rake the yard. You’d rather mow than rake. Who mows?
a. I do.
b. We trade off so each mows half and each rakes half.
c. He mows.

Scoring

1. a. 1 point b. 3 points c. 2 points
2. a. 1 point b. 2 points c. 3 points
3. a. 3 points b. 1 point c. 2 points
4. a. 2 points b. 1 point c. 3 points
5. a. 3 points b. 1 point c. 2 points
6. a. 2 points b. 3 points c. 1 point
7. a. 3 points b. 2 points c. 1 point
8. a. 2 points b. 1 point c. 3 points
9. a. 3 points b. 2 points c. 1 point
10. a. 1 point b. 2 points c. 3 points

How’d You Do?

10-15 points It’s all about you. But it shouldn’t be. God rewards those who put others first. Read Philippians 3 to see what kind of attitude Jesus had. When it’s all about you, you may find yourself without many true friends. No one likes to be with someone who’s always a taker and never a giver.

16-20 points You’re a taker, but sometimes you’re willing to compromise so both of you get what you want. Look for more situations where you and a friend can both win. And don’t be afraid to give up your own wants. Read Philippians 3 to find out how Jesus felt about a person’s importance.

21-25 points You’ve found a good balance between giving and taking. Most of the time you look for ways that everyone can get what she wants. One time you choose the movie, and the next time your friend chooses. Don’t be afraid to accept a favor or gift from another, though. It’s OK to be a taker sometimes, as long as you’re a giver other times.

26-30 points You’re a giver—maybe too much so. Putting others first doesn’t mean you always have to do the extra work or accept the lesser choice. It just means to consider others’ wants as being as important as yours. Read Philippians 3 to see how Jesus did this. If you’re not ever getting to do your favorite activity, it’s time to ask for your way!