2. You have plans to go to a movie, but your best friend gets sick. You
a. invite the most outgoing girl in the neighborhood—it’s gossip time.
b. go as planned with another friend but call later to check on her.
c. cancel the entire night. She’s the only one who understands you.

3. You’re called on to give input about an upcoming church retreat, but you weren’t listening. You
a. say how much you liked Hannah’s idea, even though you have no idea what she said.
b. admit you weren’t listening and ask for the question to be repeated.
c. slide down in your chair and hope someone else jumps in with an idea.

4. When it comes to makeup, you
a. are careful to make sure your eye shadow is the latest shade.
b. wear a little mascara and lip gloss every once in a while.
c. wonder if you need any, because your hair usually covers your face.

5. While swimming at the neighborhood pool, you hear a terrible rumor about someone you know. You
a. casually walk up to the girls talking and see what else you can find out.
b. say, “I think she’s very nice” and walk away.
c. blush in embarrassment when you see the girl whom the rumor was about.

6. You really want to start taking horseback-riding lessons, but your friends aren’t interested. You
a. start hanging out with the other riders—they’re so cool!
b. find creative ways to balance your new hobby with friend time.
c. decide against the lessons. You’d probably fall off the horse, anyway.

7. You get a blemish on your nose. You
a. buy a cute shirt and jeans to draw attention away from it.
b. dab a bit of powder on it and go about your normal day.
c. stay in bed all day and pray that it’s gone tomorrow.

8. All your friends have started dating, and you haven’t. You
a. quickly ask a guy out, even if he’s not your type.
b. listen to their stories but still wait to begin dating.
c. excuse yourself to the bathroom whenever the subject of boys comes up.

9. While out shopping one day, you run into an old friend that you don’t hang out with anymore. You
a. say hi and begin telling her about your new friends and boyfriend.
b. exchange a few hellos and ask how she’s doing.
c. duck down another aisle. You aren’t ready to see her yet.

10. A group of fashion-savvy girls is heading to the mall on Saturday, and they invite you to come. You
a. quickly say yes and comment on how cute their shoes are.
b. admit you have plans with your dad that day and politely pass.
c. make up an excuse that you have to baby-sit, even though you don’t.

Scoring Guide
Mostly A’s: Faux Confidence
While trying to define who you are as a person, be careful to avoid false confidence. Hanging out with girls you think are fun and cool doesn’t mean you’ll have friends who will be there when the times get tough. Do things that interest you, and you’ll find others who support your efforts. Be yourself, and you’ll develop friendships that will last longer than second semester.

Mostly B’s: True Confidence
When it comes to self-esteem, you’re headed in the right direction. You know close friends are priceless, and you aren’t afraid to do the right thing. Being true to yourself and your feelings makes it easy for others to get to know the real you. While it’s sometimes tough to stand up for yourself, you know others admire your honesty and integrity. Your confidence will rub off on those around you.

Mostly C’s: Confidence in Training
Being an individual can be difficult at anytime in your life, not only the teen years. If you’re struggling with embarrassment or not finding the right kind of activities that interest you, now might be the time to confide in your parents or a member of your church. Tell them how you’re feeling and ask for help in finding the inner you. A little confidence to follow your dreams will take you far.